Shake it out - Ally & Tyler

This is a movie about how cruel death can be and how sometimes cruelty is a part of healing and forming the person you always wanted to be. 

 

Tyler Hawkins is a young man living in New York, working in a book store and fighting with cops. But Tyler is also a man who lost his brother Michael and father, well-off lawyer Charles, at the same time. The first one because of his suicide and the other because of its side effect: Pain. As a father, you don't just lose your child, you lose a part of yourself, a void that in turn Tyler needed to fill.

Death steals carelessly.

Ally Craig watched her mother being murdered while waiting for the subway to come. She no longer uses public transport. Her Dad, a renowned police officer, drives her from and to university. Because death has the effect of changing not only one but many. Over-protectiveness is born so easily and death lets time stand still.

I don't want to go into detail about why Tyler wants to get Ally's Dad back (a cut above his brow plays just a smal part) for the simple reason that it doesn't matter. Fact is Tyler wants to hurt Ally by betraying her trust. Too bad that his heart doesn't play along. A romance that both were trying to avoid breaks lose and they share so many moments together that being apart isn't an option any more. 

 

Until the truth comes out and Ally leaves.

Death can make someone unforgiving.

But this wouldn't be one of my favourite movies if there weren't side stories. Because a movie about death is unacceptable. This film creates a thick web of problems. For example, there is Tyler's sister Caroline, who is being bullied by her classmates. We all know how difficult it is to be different when you're in school.

 

So we have a father who loves his non-existent baby girl and his dead wife, another father who doesn't show his love, a woman living life in the shadow of fear, a man shadowing his life with fear and a girl, who gets her hair cut off and her heart ripped out.

That's more than enough material for the end. But sometimes one, two or even three deaths aren't enough to portray sorrow and hurt.Sometimes we have to remember the ugliest days of human existence: 9/11

Tyler dies that day. Among many others. But nevertheless Tyler Hawkins dies. Before everything is alright. Right in the middle of making everything alright. 

Because death is cruel.

Remember Me is one of these rare movies that makes your heart ache a little more and leaves a bittersweet taste in your mouth. This film hurts you because it matters. Every word. Every time. Every moment.

But the crucial point is that death defines people. Sometimes it makes them worse but I believe that sometimes it makes them better, taller and lighter.

You can learn to forgive, to not make the same mistake twice, to say what you want and to do what is best for you and the one you love.

„Shake it out“ by Florence and the Machine is about the moments, when regret and demons are so heavy on your shoulders, that you are in danger of breaking. These moments are a big part of Remember Me. But this song gives you an advice.

Shake it out. All of it. Because how can you „dance with a devil on your back“? How can you enjoy life when you have nothing that matters?
Every person in this story has his own darkness, but music answers with „It's always darkest before the dawn“.Let's hope the dawn of Remember Me's characters after the darkness that Tyler's death is bright enough to outshine their sorrow.

I read somewhere that we only get as much as we can take and that sometimes by working your way through pain, you heal.

 

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This isn't one of our usual OTP videos because a) Becky is away (without me) and b) (a result of a) Becky has never watched this movie. So my opportunity to tell you guys about dying and living. I hope you can see that without the perfect connection of Ally and Tyler this story  wouldn't exist. And how important the pairing is for the message of this film.

See you soon with a lighter subject and Becky next to me and wish you all a good start into next week!

Love,

one half of One True Production